We kept in touch for a while after Jo's funeral, but their dad found a girlfriend and it became obvious that I needed to back out. Walk away. I haven't seen them in several years, since they were 7 and 9, and I'm so pleased with what I discovered - two capable girls, 13 and 15, full of opinions and enjoying opportunities, boy crushes, dreams, likes and dislikes. And a healthy respect for what happened to them, and what happened to Jo, and how they are still connected.
Fast forward to a few weeks ago. Anna needed a confirmation sponsor and her dad, not knowing any other Catholics, but committed to the girls' Catholic schooling and teachings due to Jo's wishes, contacted me. He apologized profusely for asking for this "favor" and for sure I sobbed at the chance to connect with them again . . . to let them know that even though they were ripped off in the biggest way possible, Jesus loves them.
We had frozen yogurt and went shopping for skinny khakis (permitted school uniform attire) and were reacquainted. Of course we became Facebook friends immediately. Seeing their mother with every nuance and glance was just an extra gift.
|Clara, me, Anna - at Orange Leaf|