My brother, Dan, has a lot of sayings, and one of the most instructional ones is, "I't's not about me." It's become a great tool for me, especially when I'm worked up about something happening to me personally, which usually involves some version of my hurt feelings. Examples?
When someone doesn't reply to a text or email
When I'm excluded or misunderstood
When I'm treated rudely
It's not about me. None of it. And because it's nothing I can control, I know what I need to do. My response to the situation is my very delicious choice - it's all mine.
And on this Good Friday, reflecting on "It's not about me" seems very appropo.