Twenty Minutes

One of the recent takeaways I had from the Gottman workshop we attended a few days ago...

 

Don't miss an opportunity to connect with your partner, ever.  How do you do that?  Make sure you have a daily, current glimpse into their inner world.  You might wonder...as I did at first...who's got time for that?

 

It's easier than you might think.  First, you need to set aside twenty minutes every day, hopefully near the same time of day everyday to encourage the ritual.  Then, spend 10 minutes as the listener and 10 minutes as the speaker, affording your partner the opposite role.  Now...what do you talk about?  Three things...it's that easy...or that complex, depending on how engaged you are:

1.  What's the best thing that happened to you today?

2.  What's the worst thing that happened to you today?

3. What are you looking forward to tomorrow?

Try it for a week or a little longer, a lifetime.  You're welcome.